I (28M) found a problematic website on my boyfriend's (30M) computer?
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3 weeks ago#828001
So I was at my boyfriend's house when I got an urgent work email. I didn't have my computer so I asked to use his desktop to quickly rectify the problem and reply. He allowed me to use his computer and I got to finishing my work. When I opened his Google Chrome to sign into my email and reply, I noticed an unfamiliar website in his bookmarked tabs. I noticed it because the website had a weird domain and not .com or .net as is typical. I found it weird that he would browse a foreign site with a weird domain ending, especially because he only speaks English. I waited until he went to bed and, against my better judgement, I snooped.
The website that I found was horrifying. The first thing that greeted me was a cartoon image of a man being hanged with problematic language under it. The bookmark took me to a site named “soyjak party” and it was full of racist, homophobic, and generally misogynistic language. There were comments and posts about all sorts of things I won’t repeat here, but suffice it to say this is not the sort of website you want to find your boyfriend of four years browsing.
I’m honestly in shock at finding this website on my boyfriend’s computer. He’s not the sort of person to associate with hateful rhetoric in person or online. My boyfriend works at a homeless shelter in an administrative role, he’s the sort of person that prides himself in helping vulnerable people get on their feet. I am heavily involved in organizing local Palestine protests and he has attended almost all of them in support of me and the movement. On top of our similar politics, he has always been a kind and compassionate boyfriend. He is very respectful and patient, and he has never given me a reason to believe he holds hatred for anyone in his heart. We have been discussing marriage and I have been under the impression that he is very close to proposing.
When I found this website on his computer I decided not to question him right at that moment because it’s a long drive from his house to my house (about an hour) and I wasn’t confident the streets were cleared of snow. I don’t want to confront him because I only browsed the website in passing - I don’t know much about it - and I’m not really sure what it’s about beyond the dozen images I scrolled before I closed it out. Despite this, I feel like he’s involved with something really against his character and I can’t help but wonder if he’s been hiding some prejudices throughout our relationship. There is no good reason he would have bookmarked this website if he weren’t a regular, and if he is a regular then he’s not the sort of person I want to deal with (let alone get married to).
What is the best way to navigate this situation?
The website that I found was horrifying. The first thing that greeted me was a cartoon image of a man being hanged with problematic language under it. The bookmark took me to a site named “soyjak party” and it was full of racist, homophobic, and generally misogynistic language. There were comments and posts about all sorts of things I won’t repeat here, but suffice it to say this is not the sort of website you want to find your boyfriend of four years browsing.
I’m honestly in shock at finding this website on my boyfriend’s computer. He’s not the sort of person to associate with hateful rhetoric in person or online. My boyfriend works at a homeless shelter in an administrative role, he’s the sort of person that prides himself in helping vulnerable people get on their feet. I am heavily involved in organizing local Palestine protests and he has attended almost all of them in support of me and the movement. On top of our similar politics, he has always been a kind and compassionate boyfriend. He is very respectful and patient, and he has never given me a reason to believe he holds hatred for anyone in his heart. We have been discussing marriage and I have been under the impression that he is very close to proposing.
When I found this website on his computer I decided not to question him right at that moment because it’s a long drive from his house to my house (about an hour) and I wasn’t confident the streets were cleared of snow. I don’t want to confront him because I only browsed the website in passing - I don’t know much about it - and I’m not really sure what it’s about beyond the dozen images I scrolled before I closed it out. Despite this, I feel like he’s involved with something really against his character and I can’t help but wonder if he’s been hiding some prejudices throughout our relationship. There is no good reason he would have bookmarked this website if he weren’t a regular, and if he is a regular then he’s not the sort of person I want to deal with (let alone get married to).
What is the best way to navigate this situation?
3 weeks ago#828003
Unoriginal ahh threadSo I was at my boyfriend's house when I got an urgent work email. I didn't have my computer so I asked to use his desktop to quickly rectify the problem and reply. He allowed me to use his computer and I got to finishing my work. When I opened his Google Chrome to sign into my email and reply, I noticed an unfamiliar website in his bookmarked tabs. I noticed it because the website had a weird domain and not .com or .net as is typical. I found it weird that he would browse a foreign site with a weird domain ending, especially because he only speaks English. I waited until he went to bed and, against my better judgement, I snooped.
The website that I found was horrifying. The first thing that greeted me was a cartoon image of a man being hanged with problematic language under it. The bookmark took me to a site named “soyjak party” and it was full of racist, homophobic, and generally misogynistic language. There were comments and posts about all sorts of things I won’t repeat here, but suffice it to say this is not the sort of website you want to find your boyfriend of four years browsing.
I’m honestly in shock at finding this website on my boyfriend’s computer. He’s not the sort of person to associate with hateful rhetoric in person or online. My boyfriend works at a homeless shelter in an administrative role, he’s the sort of person that prides himself in helping vulnerable people get on their feet. I am heavily involved in organizing local Palestine protests and he has attended almost all of them in support of me and the movement. On top of our similar politics, he has always been a kind and compassionate boyfriend. He is very respectful and patient, and he has never given me a reason to believe he holds hatred for anyone in his heart. We have been discussing marriage and I have been under the impression that he is very close to proposing.
When I found this website on his computer I decided not to question him right at that moment because it’s a long drive from his house to my house (about an hour) and I wasn’t confident the streets were cleared of snow. I don’t want to confront him because I only browsed the website in passing - I don’t know much about it - and I’m not really sure what it’s about beyond the dozen images I scrolled before I closed it out. Despite this, I feel like he’s involved with something really against his character and I can’t help but wonder if he’s been hiding some prejudices throughout our relationship. There is no good reason he would have bookmarked this website if he weren’t a regular, and if he is a regular then he’s not the sort of person I want to deal with (let alone get married to).
What is the best way to navigate this situation?
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>So I was at my boyfriend's house when I got an urgent work email. I didn't have my computer so I asked to use his desktop to quickly rectify the problem and reply. He allowed me to use his computer and I got to finishing my work. When I opened his Google Chrome to sign into my email and reply, I noticed an unfamiliar website in his bookmarked tabs. I noticed it because the website had a weird domain and not .com or .net as is typical. I found it weird that he would browse a foreign site with a weird domain ending, especially because he only speaks English. I waited until he went to bed and, against my better judgement, I snooped.
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>The website that I found was horrifying. The first thing that greeted me was a cartoon image of a man being hanged with problematic language under it. The bookmark took me to a site named “soyjak party” and it was full of racist, homophobic, and generally misogynistic language. There were comments and posts about all sorts of things I won’t repeat here, but suffice it to say this is not the sort of website you want to find your boyfriend of four years browsing.
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>I’m honestly in shock at finding this website on my boyfriend’s computer. He’s not the sort of person to associate with hateful rhetoric in person or online. My boyfriend works at a homeless shelter in an administrative role, he’s the sort of person that prides himself in helping vulnerable people get on their feet. I am heavily involved in organizing local Palestine protests and he has attended almost all of them in support of me and the movement. On top of our similar politics, he has always been a kind and compassionate boyfriend. He is very respectful and patient, and he has never given me a reason to believe he holds hatred for anyone in his heart. We have been discussing marriage and I have been under the impression that he is very close to proposing.
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>When I found this website on his computer I decided not to question him right at that moment because it’s a long drive from his house to my house (about an hour) and I wasn’t confident the streets were cleared of snow. I don’t want to confront him because I only browsed the website in passing - I don’t know much about it - and I’m not really sure what it’s about beyond the dozen images I scrolled before I closed it out. Despite this, I feel like he’s involved with something really against his character and I can’t help but wonder if he’s been hiding some prejudices throughout our relationship. There is no good reason he would have bookmarked this website if he weren’t a regular, and if he is a regular then he’s not the sort of person I want to deal with (let alone get married to).
>What is the best way to navigate this situation?
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>The website that I found was horrifying. The first thing that greeted me was a cartoon image of a man being hanged with problematic language under it. The bookmark took me to a site named “soyjak party” and it was full of racist, homophobic, and generally misogynistic language. There were comments and posts about all sorts of things I won’t repeat here, but suffice it to say this is not the sort of website you want to find your boyfriend of four years browsing.
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>I’m honestly in shock at finding this website on my boyfriend’s computer. He’s not the sort of person to associate with hateful rhetoric in person or online. My boyfriend works at a homeless shelter in an administrative role, he’s the sort of person that prides himself in helping vulnerable people get on their feet. I am heavily involved in organizing local Palestine protests and he has attended almost all of them in support of me and the movement. On top of our similar politics, he has always been a kind and compassionate boyfriend. He is very respectful and patient, and he has never given me a reason to believe he holds hatred for anyone in his heart. We have been discussing marriage and I have been under the impression that he is very close to proposing.
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>When I found this website on his computer I decided not to question him right at that moment because it’s a long drive from his house to my house (about an hour) and I wasn’t confident the streets were cleared of snow. I don’t want to confront him because I only browsed the website in passing - I don’t know much about it - and I’m not really sure what it’s about beyond the dozen images I scrolled before I closed it out. Despite this, I feel like he’s involved with something really against his character and I can’t help but wonder if he’s been hiding some prejudices throughout our relationship. There is no good reason he would have bookmarked this website if he weren’t a regular, and if he is a regular then he’s not the sort of person I want to deal with (let alone get married to).
>What is the best way to navigate this situation?
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